Now That You’re Sober: Who Should You Date?
Once you’ve kicked a habit, the worst thing you can do is to fall right back into behavior that could trigger a relapse. Right? That’s probably what you’ve heard in program or from a counselor. So, who should you date once you are clean living and in the right mind frame to find true love?
Keep It Simple
Dating should be fun. It should be carefree and full of firsts. First walks, first dinners, first kisses. Those things are amazing and with the right person, you can really make one another’s lives very special. Dates should include things you both enjoy. From outdoor activities like golf, fishing, softball, and hiking. To simple dinners at a favorite restaurant. Don’t discount days at the spa or a nice walk in a park, either. Sober dating can really be amazing. Because you are genuinely getting to know one another and not some fake, hazy version of yourselves.
Stay Stress Free
While you’re living sober, it should be stress free. You might be on a natural supplement to reduce stress and cravings like Mitadone, so your relationship shouldn’t add stress. Relationships are hard work and can cause additional anxiety. If you aren’t on a supplement, you might want to speak to your doctor about one. The other thing to keep in mind, is that your partner should lift you up and encourage you. People who don’t mesh with your new lifestyle might not be best for your continued recovery, so keep that in mind as you start to make dates.
Don’t Be Afraid To Be Honest
You are an addict. Whether it’s alcohol, opiates, uppers or downers - you struggle with things some people do not. That means dating is different for you, but it does not mean that it is not possible. Be honest with yourself. Can you handle the trigger of dating someone who socially drinks?
While you might think you can handle dating someone who isn’t an addict, but drinks or does social drugs - you might not really be prepared for that. Just be aware of things and talk to your counselor or sponsor before you delve into a relationship.
When it all comes down to dating sober: You should date someone who is likeminded and has the same goals as you, and if you’re living sober - that person is probably sober and doesn’t drink or do recreational drugs.